Owning and carrying a firearm affects who you are and how you live your life. It can dictate what you wear, who you hang out with, where you go, when you do things and even why you choose to do them.
There are many people who feel strongly one way or the other, so when you’re in a relationship, you will (at some point) have to have “the talk”- about CCW.
As Michael Jenkins (Writer, USA Carry) says, “Having an intimate partner—particularly one who lives with you—necessitates a re-thinking of your CCW setup and tactics.” Below, we have listed a few guidelines and suggestions for you to think over when it comes to Concealed Carry and Relationships.
In a national study of women’s relationship to firearms, 47% of women said seeing a civilian in public wearing a holstered gun would make them feel less safe. For this reason (along with many others), there should be complete disclosure and honesty about CCW from the very beginning.
Tactically, both parties should know where the guns are, how to use and maintain them, and how the other person carries. If they feel strongly about gun control and CCW, it may take time to get past their pre-conceived notions about guns (if they ever do), but if they ask questions and are genuinely curious, explain why you’re carrying and see how they respond.
At a bare minimum, you’ll want to make sure you both have some training and practice on a regular basis. No excuses: you both need to be at the range running CCW drills at least once a month.
By training together and learning to work tactically as a team, you’ll increase your chances of coming out on top in a self defense situation. And who knows—you might have some fun and bond further in the process.
When it comes to self-defense, if there’s a particular model that everyone in your household can agree on, why not standardize the guns that’ll serve your family in a crisis? There’s a reason why most police departments make their officers carry the same (or similar) firearms– so that ammunition can be passed between officers during a critical incident. Since all of the guns have the same ergonomics and manual of arms, training on one — drawing, loading, operating, firing — pretty much applies to the others, too.
A couple with a plan and training can easily outflank, outsmart and out-communicate a group of “bad guys”. For a complete range of basic, advanced, specialized shooting and tactical training, try BSR’s Firearms Training Course.
We’d love to hear about your experiences or ideas concerning concealed carry and relationships! Until then: stay safe out there.